Leagues

As kids that have been through high school, and experimented with early romance/relationships, we've ALMOST all got the "she/he is out of your league" speech before from one of our friends.

Bypassing the functionality of heuristics, people have established a "league" for us to classify with. Every once in a while you can dip above or below this league, but you are restricted to the belief that you're aspirations towards the other gender have limits.

I look back on some of the pretty girls I've been involved with in my life. The initial gratification from each of those relationships was the 'score.' The catch of getting a good-looking girl, and having your bros say "DAMN dude, she's hot." This was a naive incentive...

I think any girl who perceives an intangible 'league' with boundaries around them is a girl that is NOT worth pursuing. Being a heterosexual individual, I don't rate myself. For all I know, I'm a 1/10 on a given girl's scale... who am I to say I deserve a more attractive girl? That's stupid as hell. I think too many people have gotten by in life on the sole basis of their looks.

I've dealt with so many untrustworthy, self-interested, spiteful women in my life, that at this point in time i can HONESTLY say, I only like girls now based on their personalities. Obviously, I'm sexually attracted to a lot of women, but I am also very unattracted to a lot of those people based off their personalities (lack thereof). I just want a cute, music-loving girl I can kick it with. The type you can introduce to mom and pops, ya know?

Moral: stop acting like you're in a certain league, leave your possibilities open.

-Jack